Vulnerability by Dr. Brene Brown

10 Nov

So this is a TedTv video of am amazing presenter. I am putting it here on my blog rather than just on Facebook as I want to be able to find it again!

I am so impressed with Dr. Brown: her storytelling, her hard research analytical mind, her openess, and even her learned vulnerability. A must see for anyone in research or social work, who wants to be connected, who finds themselves feeling emotions and has ever struggled with them. Here is her 20 minute TED TV video link, well worth it!  If you can’t make the time, scan the snippets below:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4Qm9cGRub0&feature=player_embedded#!

“Stories are data with a soul…Lean into the discomfort…connection is why we are here…to allow for connection we have to allow ourselves to be seen (be vulnerable)…people who feel a strong sense of love and belonging simply believe they are worthy of it…they have courage to be imperfect, compassion to be kind to themselves & others, and had connection as a result of authenticity & embraced vulnerability…fear of being worthy of that connection keeps us from it…vulnerability makes us beautiful (not pretty but necessary)…willingness to say I love you first…vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, love, joy…we learn to numb vulnerability and everything else that makes us uncomfortable…we can’t numb emotions yet we try (I don’t want to deal with this so I am drinking a beer and a banana nut muffin)…we can’t selectively numb hard emotions without numbing all of them…so when we numb vulnerability or fear, we also numb gratitude, joy, happiness…dangerous cycle of numbing good feelings, then feel miserable, look for purpose and meaning, then feel vulnerable and eat or drink to numb more…the more vulnerable we are the more we make everything uncertain to certain (religion, politics)…kids are wired for struggle…we pretend that what we do doesn’t have an effect on people…instead let’s let ourselves been deeply seen with our whole heart when there is no guarantee…to feel vulnerable means you are alive so appreciate that…lastly believe that you are enough because you will stop screaming and start listening. You will be kinder and gentler to yourself and others around you. ”

Her website is here:  http://www.brenebrown.com/welcome

She has a blog you can subscribe to here: http://www.ordinarycourage.com/

Dr. Brene Brown at TEDxHouston 2010

Image by TEDxHouston via Flickr

Dr. Brene Brown at TEDxHouston 2010

Image by TEDxHouston via Flickr

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